True confidence comes from being comfortable in your skin. But how does one possess true confidence?
In this article, we’ll go over how you can overcome self-doubt and increase confidence using affirmations.
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What is Confidence?
Struggling with self-doubt, self-esteem issues, and not feeling good enough is perfectly valid and normal. We all struggle with insecure feelings to some degree at various times in our life.
However, when you lack confidence in a way that cripples your life, this can cause problems. Lacking confidence of this nature causes self-sabotaging behaviors, often leads to unhappiness and blocks you from manifesting the life you truly dream of and desire.
In my experience, there are two types of confidence.
The first kind of confidence is more of an overall confidence akin to a sense of well-being and self-acceptance. This confidence is foundational and is rooted in some form of fear, lack, or attachment trauma (relational bonding).
Here the person can struggle with low self-esteem, self-rejection, and lack of self-worth. When we lack this kind of confidence, we subconsciously believe and feel that something is fundamentally wrong with us at a core level.
Also, we can lack confidence in one area of life, or we can lack confidence in all areas. You can heal fundamental confidence issues with self-love practices, affirmations, and help from a professional (psychotherapy, shadow work, life coaching, or spiritual healing.)
The second kind of confidence is when we embark on something outside our comfort zone. This kind of confidence is more about courage, overcoming fears, and believing in your abilities.
It gets worked through by doing and taking action. For instance, learning how to swim, public speaking, making new friends, or even meditating. You just have to challenge yourself and take action to get better at the chosen skill.
And sometimes, embarking on a new challenge will unravel the fundamental confidence issues that a person may have.
Experiences and Behavioral Traits that Affect Confidence
- Rigidity (reaction to shame)
- Self-critical (being hard on yourself)
- Overthinking (anxious and fearful thinking)
- Perfectionism (black-and-white thinking, unrealistic expectations)
- Self-worth (fundamental)
- History of childhood trauma
- Experiencing hardships and grief
- Judgment (moralizing)
Please be sure to read my article on Dr. David R. Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness to understand the range of human emotions and how you can transcend fear-based ego and begin to heal and transform your life.
What are Affirmations? And How to Use Them to Build Confidence.
Confidence comes from a combination of self-compassion, self-acceptance, facing your fears, taking action, and letting go of false beliefs.
A lot of us see ourselves through a distorted lens. Your beliefs and how you label yourself affect your well-being. Notice when you are not feeling confident. If you check in with your thoughts, you’re probably not being nice to yourself.
This is where affirmations come in.
Affirmations are short positive statements you say aloud, in your head, or write to overcome negative programming. Affirmations help you train yourself to think, feel and act differently. With consistency, you can gradually change your self-image using affirmations.
Additionally, practicing affirmations in the morning and before bed can do wonders for your mood, raise your vibration, and improve your overall well-being.
There is scientific evidence that self-affirming rewires your brain. When we work with affirmations correctly, our brain will fire new neuro pathways, and our brain chemistry will alter to fit our new beliefs.
Furthermore, for affirmations to work, we have to penetrate the conscious mind and work with our subconscious. The subconscious is on autopilot, connected to your emotional body, and stores your memories, habits, and beliefs. We spend 95% of our life in the subconscious mind. So to work with affirmations the right way, always be sure to conjure up the emotional experience of the affirmation.
Tips to Work With Affirmations
- Set about 10 minutes daily. The best times to work with affirmations are in the morning when you wake up, before bed, and after meditations.
- Choose 3 to 5 affirmations below that resonates with you.
- You can repeat affirmations in front of the mirror, in your head, or try writing them out in a journal.
- Take a few deep, slow breaths and get your mind and body relaxed and calm before repeating or writing each affirmation.
- Conjure the emotional feeling of the affirmation.
- Repeat each affirmation ten times.
- If you can, memorize the emotional experience and maintain the feeling throughout your day.
- When you catch yourself reverting to the old negative feelings and thoughts, surrender the negative thinking and replace it with the positive affirmation in your head.
Also, try writing your own affirmations to make them more personal to you. Check out my article on how to write affirmations.
57 Affirmations to Build Confidence
- It’s okay to make mistakes; perfection is unrealistic.
- My voice, thoughts, and feelings are valued.
- I am comfortable in my own skin.
- I am resilient!
- I fully accept myself and love myself unconditionally.
- I believe in my abilities.
- It’s okay to mess up. Life is for learning and making mistakes.
- I am flexible.
- I let go of not feeling good enough.
- I trust my instincts.
- I am centered, grounded, and in control of myself.
- I accept my flaws; it’s okay to be flawed.
- I let go of black-and-white thinking; life is gray and nuanced, and so am I.
- I can gain mastery of my chosen craft if I work consistently, patiently, and diligently.
- It’s okay to have bad days.
- I let go of my self-judgments.
- I free myself of my limitations.
- I trust my abilities to overcome any challenge that comes my way.
- I’m self-sufficient.
- My self-worth is not contingent on what others think of me.
- I release all suffering, negative thinking, and old patterns of thinking.
- I am independent, confident, and successful!
- People are allowed to have their own opinions. I don’t have to take on their views of me. I have the power to reject them.
- My self-worth is not contingent on what my parents think of me.
- I fully accept who I am as a person.
- I release self-doubt and trust my inner knowing and divine guidance.
- I am successful in all my endeavors.
- I trust my gut.
- I love myself for who I am.
- I am successful in everything that I do.
- I deserve everything I desire.
- I attract all goodness and success into my life.
- I respect myself.
- I am emotionally intelligent and take a breath before heated situations.
- I walk away from situations that do not serve me well.
- I am worthy of accomplishing my goals and living my dream life.
- My self-esteem is contingent on what I think of myself.
- Today I face my day with calm, peace, and confidence in my abilities.
- I am connected to my inner power. I trust the guidance that my higher self gives to me.
- I trust my intuition and my third eye.
- I believe in myself.
- I love myself unconditionally and accept myself fully.
- I am self-autonomous.
- I am my own source of power and light.
- I am connected to Source and at one with the Universe.
- I manage all areas of my life with ease.
- I take on my day with courage.
- My worth is not contingent on external circumstances.
- I value truth over being liked.
- It’s okay to set boundaries when I don’t feel good.
- I am patient and worked towards all my goals with diligence, discipline, and determination.
- I flow with ease in my life.
- I am proud of everything I’ve accomplished.
- I learn and grow from my failures.
- I am clear on my goals and navigate life with confidence.
- It’s normal to feel intimidated when learning something new. I’m scared, but I take the plunge and dive in anyway.
- Learning new things and growing is exciting!
Closing Thoughts on Affirmations for Confidence
And voila! Affirmations are a simple, cheap way to heal yourself, improve, and feel better. I hope this article helped you understand how to work with confidence affirmations. I’d love to hear how it goes! Stay persistent and consistent.
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